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A daughter is a girl

Mothers and daughters have a unique relationship that no one from outside can even begin to comprehend. They love and understand each other with an intensity that makes others jealous. Their relationship is not without challenges though.

These quotes describe the best and most demanding aspects of a mother-daughter relationship. Check them out and you will gain you a new appreciation for your mum or daughter.

1. A daughter is God’s way of saying “thought you could use a lifelong friend.”

 

2. The love between a mother and daughter is forever.

 

3. One of the most important relationships we have is the relationship we have with our mothers.

 

4. If I could give my daughter 3 things, it would be the confidence to always know her self-worth, the strength to chase her dreams and the ability to know how truly, deeply loved she is.

5. I don’t want my children to follow in my footsteps. I want them to take the path next to me and go further than I could have ever dreamt possible.

6. As for my girls, I’ll raise them to think they breathe fire.

 

7. A daughter may outgrow your lap, but she will never outgrow your heart.

 

8. A mother is she who can take the place of others, but whose place no one else can take.

 

9. On the darkest days, when I feel inadequate, unloved and unworthy, I remember whose daughter I am and I straighten my crown.

 

10. Angels are often disguised as daughters.

 

11. Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field since the payment is pure love.

 

12. A daughter is someone you laugh with, dream with, and love with all your heart.

The Majority Of Americans Can’t Spot The Missing Number On The First Try

Most people think they can count to 50. Take this quiz to see if you can easily spot the missing number in the sequence!

Note: The solution is situated below.

Were you able to see the missing number? In case no, we can provide the answer for you!

 

(PLEASE don’t scroll down unless you already gave up answering.)

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ANSWER:

Yes, that’s right! The Answer is 42!

How fast were you able to distinguish the missing number? Please share it with us in the comment section below! Also, don’t forget to share this with your family and friends for them to be challenged as well!
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People Are Having A Really Hard Time Solving This Math Puzzle. Can You?

Do you think you can find the answer?

If one of your answers was 40 then you’re absolutely correct!

First equation: 1 + 4 = 5.

Second equation: 2 + 5 (plus the previous sum of 5) = 12.

Third equation: 3 + 9 (plus the previous sum of 12) = 21.

Fourth equation: 8 + 11 (plus the previous sum of 21) = 40.

But what is the second answer???

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The second answer is 96!

First equation: 1 x 4 + 1 = 5

Second equation: 2 x 5 + 2 = 12

Third equation: 3 x 6 + 3 = 21

Fourth equation: 8 x 11 + 8 = 96

I respect any man who can heal

12 QUOTES THAT DEFINE WHAT A REAL MAN IS IN A RELATIONSHIP

There have been so many things said about a real man and what a real man does. But who truly is a real man?

These quotes will tell you more about a real man, who he is and what he does:

 

1. A real man nurtures and protects.

“Manhood is defined and decided by the ability to nurture and to protect, by the capability to provide and to sustain.” – C. JoyBell C.

2. Real men aren’t scared of love.

“Love is for real men.” – Charles Bukowski

3. A real man shows you what he tells you.

“A good guy will tell you you’re beautiful, a real man will make you believe it.”

4. A real man is a faithful man.

“Real men stay faithful. They don’t have time to look for another woman because they are too busy looking for new ways to love their own.”

5. A real man isn’t just about your body.

“A real man cares about the size of your heart, not the size of your jeans.”

6. A real man sticks with the woman he can’t do without.

“A real man gives up one night stands for a woman he can’t stand one night without.”

7. A real man is a real deal.

“A real man is the kind of man that acts like who he wants his sister to be with and his daughter as well.”

8. A real man doesn’t leave it all for his woman.

“A real woman can do it all by himself but a real man won’t let her.”

9. A real man doesn’t give up after winning his woman’s heart.

“Winning a woman’s heart doesn’t make someone a man, learning to treasure that heart after it’s won is what makes someone a real man.”

10. A real man protects his relationship.

“A real man will cut off from any female that will threaten his relationship with his woman.”

11. A real man never makes his woman jealous.

“A real man gives his woman her place in his life. She’ll never be jealous of women, because he will always let her place be known.”

12. A real man is an honest man.

“A real man will be honest no matter how painful the truth is. A coward hides behind lies and deceit.”

Now, fellas out there: would you call yourself a real man?

Don’t drive yourself crazy.

You can’t change people, so don’t drive yourself crazy trying. Instead, just change how you deal with them, or just stay away from them.

5 Powerful Ways To Love Yourself

We have all heard phrases that implore us to love ourselves before all else. Many theorize this is the key to many other things like building self-confidence and finding the love of another. But why is it so difficult for people to love themselves? Why is it difficult to accept the fact you are worthy of love?

You will need time, patience, and practice to become adept at loving yourself. The battle is ongoing and you may stumble from time to time. Many of the thoughts that nag you with doubt and self-loathing come from inside. But there are times the comments and actions of others can trigger these thoughts.

The most important thing to remember is you are deserving of self-love.

Therapist, Health Coach, And Personal Change Facilitator, Drew Coster, talks about self-love in this article published in Psych Central.

What Is Self-Love – The process of loving oneself is both physical and mental. Many times it is necessary to put your own needs first in life. This is difficult to do if you do not believe you deserve it.

Why Self-Love Is Necessary – Lacking self-love can negatively affect every aspect of your life. People who do not love themselves often continue on a downward spiral until relationships with friends and family begin to suffer. The absence of self-love can even lead to depression.

It is not necessary to diagnose a mental or emotional disorder to experience these problems. Everyone has days when the thoughts in their head or the actions of others destroy their emotions. But when these days begin to happen with frequency, it can mark the beginning of a dark and dangerous road. No one but yourself can rescue you from depression. It is important that you choose to do so sooner than later.

Practice Self-Care

An article of its own could be written about self-care. This action affects so many aspects of your life, it is vital you practice it mindfully. The root cause is always present when there is a lack of self-care: You do not think you are worthy of it.

These feelings of unworthiness can cause you to ignore basic human needs such as bathing, exercise, and eating healthy foods. If you learn to take care of your basic needs, your life will be happy again. We often tell ourselves someone else has a greater need for our love and attention than we possess. This is often used as an excuse for not loving and caring for ourselves.

Here are some tips to love and care for yourself:

  • Eat healthy foods
  • Get plenty of sleep at night
  • Start or maintain an exercise routine
  • Take time to meditate
  • Practice good hygiene
  • Say no to things that compromise your love for self
  • Do something for yourself on a daily basis

Pen A Letter To Yourself

Sit down and pretend you are looking at yourself. Write a letter that highlights all the good things you see. Also, sketch all the encouragement the person you see needs to hear. Seal the letter and put it in a safe place until you return for it. Read the letter later to remind yourself why you should always have compassion and love for yourself. This self-compassion will give you greater inner strength, emotional stability, and an increased ability to remain calm.

Make Time For A Heart To Heart With Yourself

Experts believe in the proven ability of self-talks to reaffirm the value of anyone struggling with self-worth issues. These discussions can basically take place everywhere and can even be used as a preventive measure when no problem exists. Take the time regularly to verbally reaffirm your positive traits and qualities.

You should also tell your inner critic to shut up.

Record Negative Thoughts In A Journal

Negative thoughts about yourself cannot be helpful. This is true whether the thoughts originate within yourself or are prompted by someone. You can take the bite out of these words by writing or recording the negative thoughts you have for yourself. Later, read these words to yourself.

Ask yourself if these are things you would say to other people. If not, why would you talk to yourself this way?

Use Loving-Kindness Meditation

With guided meditation, you can overcome past problems that dominate your thoughts. This will also work for new thoughts and events. Meditation promotes positivity by training the person to live in the present. Breathing exercises and yoga can be added for a complete body and mind experience.

Cancer-sick Alex Trebek wishes he’d met his wife earlier: “We could have had a longer life together”

Alex Trebek, the host of the popular show “Jeopardy”, revealed earlier this week that he has been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer.

The 78-year-old informed the world via a candid statement put forth by the show’s social media accounts, reassuring fans that he would fight the disease until the bitter end.

Trebek has hosted “Jeopardy” since 1984 (35 years) and confirmed he would remain with the show whilst he undergoes treatment.

The heartbreaking news comes just months after he told how he wished he’d met his wife earlier.

Fans and other celebrities from around the world have instigated an outpour of tributes since Trebek’s revelation, though it’s without a doubt those closest to him who will have taken the blow the hardest.

Amongst those, of course, is Jean Trebek, the 78-year-old’s wife of 29 years.

Though that might seem a long time to have been together, it’s not long enough for Trebek, who recently told People that he wishes he could have met Jean earlier.

Trebek said: “I’m pretty satisfied with my life. But my wife Jean and I have been together almost 29 years, and I was thinking about President Bush when he died, and all the comments about his life about what a nice guy he is, and how he and his wife had been together 73 years. I thought, ‘Oh my Gosh… If I’d just met Jean in my 20s we could have had a long life together.’”

He went on to joke: “I guess if I’d met her when I was in my 20s she wouldn’t have been born yet. But hey, 29 years is pretty good!”

Despite being given a grave diagnosis, Trebek insists he will remain fighting for as long as he can.

“With the love and support of my family and friends, and with the help of your prayers also, I plan to beat the low survival rate statistics for this disease.”

Alex Trebek may have been dealt a rough card, but his courage is inspiring as it is brave. Every day, thousands of people are told they have cancer, and every one of them is someone’s mother, father, brother, or sister. Every one of them is scared and unsure, everyone nervous about what is to come.

It’s for those people and the millions who will be diagnosed in the future, that we must stand together and do all we can to find a cure for this horrible disease!

Source: en.newsner.com

 

How Your Man Treats His Mother Reveals How He’ll Treat You

“You can tell how a man will treat his wife by the way he treats his mother,” – this was a controversial and beguiling yardstick to judge a man. Even in this case, many men may be aware that much of their notions about women come from the first woman they ever interact with – their mothers.

This stratified and life-defining relationship develops over time. Children normalize the behaviors they see every day and are impacted by the conflicts they face and solve. In addition, mothers’ attachment styles and their nurtured behavior can hold life-long impacts on men. However, there are no clear black or white when it comes to behavior towards their mother and its impact on their dating.

Apart from that, no one wants a partner who enjoys abuse or is too damaged to maintain a romantic relationship. However, there are signs to predict the possible behavior of a man in a relationship, and these signs can be observed in the ways your love interest treats his mother.

If he grew up with a nurturing mother

Men who grew up with a mother who showed a lot of love, kindness, care, affection, and respect will learn to do the same things to their romantic partner. If your man is used to having a very close and loving relationship with his mother, it will be much easier for him to develop similar types of relationships romantically.

It will not be a stretch for him to be loving, to be attentive, to be affectionate and all that good stuff. For men who grew up with a strong and respectful woman, you are also respected. The only possible downside dating men who have developed a close tie with his mother is that he might have a slight tendency to be a mommy’s boy.

By mommy’s boy, we mean, someone who often can not say ‘no’ to his mother and/or someone who has to constantly ask for his mother’s opinion. If so, you must talk to him about it, but if he still respects you at the end of the day he still respects and values you as his partner then their relationship should not be a problem.

If he isn’t that close to his mother

Men who have grown up with mothers that haven’t shown much affection or communicated their love regularly will tend to grow up struggling to be open in romantic relationships. They will still have respect for women in general and be able to befriend them. However, whenever things get closer or a woman wants a commitment from them – they tend to be scared and create problems to end the problematic relationship.

These men were not used to receiving affection or love from their mother, therefore to receive it as well as give it to their partner is seen as new territories to them. If you are dating with someone who is not so close to his mother, you may have a challenge if you want him to open up to you, become vulnerable and engage emotionally.

You may even have to prove your love to them because they may also lack self-esteem or self-worth, which can be difficult if you are looking for someone who already has self-confidence. It is not impossible to bring men who grew up in this way to learn love and receive love, it will only require a little more work from your end.

If he isn’t close at all and often does not like his mother

Men who grew up with mothers who did not show any form of love (or even abused them) will grow up with a lack of respect for women and will do everything in their power to hurt those who really want to be with them. They like these will develop the perception that all women are no good and are only a source of pain because he has learned it from his mother growing up.

Men like these are the ones who constantly lack respect for the women closest to them and even those that they do not know. In romantic relationships, they will what they can to hurt you, betray you and destroy your self-esteem as well as confidence. These are the type of men who you will end up having toxic relationships with. You may think that you love him because you see he has to be a great partner, however, in reality, you find yourself getting hurt over and over again because he simply does not know how to love you the way you deserve to be loved.

It is very difficult for them to learn to love because they themselves were deprived of love growing up. You can not give what you did not receive yourself after all, right? When you are with someone like that, you must understand that you can not be the one to ‘change’ him, as he must learn by himself to make peace with the past, his childhood and the mother that caused him so much pain growing up. You can not give him what his mother should give him, and that’s certainly not your role.

Overall

It is good to pay attention not only to the way your partner treats his mother, but also the relationship that they have together. If your partner is very respectful to her, speaks kindly of her and to her, helps her out with things, listens to her opinion and still able to do all of the same things to you, then you have yourself a definite keeper. However, if you notice your partner having an unhealthy relationship with his mother, talks badly of her and to her, shouts at her and disrespects her, be wary of him. If a man could dare to disrespect his own mother, then he certainly will not have any qualms disrespecting you.

It’s good not only to see how your partner treats his mother but also to see the relationship they have together. If your partner is very respectful to her, speaks kindly of her and to her, helps her out with things, listens to her opinion and still able to do all of the same things to you, then you have yourself a definite keeper. However, if you notice that your partner has an unhealthy relationship with his mother, talks badly of her and to her, screams at her and disrespects her, be careful with him. If a man could dare to disrespect his own mother, then he will certainly not have any qualms disrespecting you.

This post originally appeared on The bridestory

Source: bridestory.com

When you’re young.

When you’re young, your grandparents try to tell you their history, and you don’t care because it doesn’t interest you at the time. Later on, you wish you had written down what they said. 

Almost everyone has fond memories with their grandparents, even if you can’t remember any.

They are the ones that get to spoil you anytime they want and they have always had your back. For my whole life, my grandma has lived with us, sometimes just right down the hall from me. Having her there every day has impacted my life in ways I wasn’t able to fully appreciate until left home and didn’t have her there.

Looking back, there are many important things I learned from her, and things she did that I will forever hold close to my heart. During my childhood, I grew up thinking everyone’s grandma lived with them, I soon realized how lucky I was.

 

1. She’s one of my best friends

We went through a lot of things together and it was not just lollipops and homemade cookies. She was always there for me, even though I forgot to be grateful. The family is a mess, it’s not perfect, but me neither. We have our mistakes, but in the end, we know that we share a link that does not give up easily.

2. She’s the best cuddle buddy

If I had it in the hallway, many nights should have crawled into bed as soon as my parents fell asleep. She always kept the blanket open for me, so that I could snuggle up against myself. Sometimes she would always read and scratch her back to sleep. Sometimes she snored at night and put my head between her pillows. None of that was important when I reached my foot of the bed and felt his warm leg know that she would be there when I woke up.

 

3. She gives unique relationship advice

At their age, the men were not on their radar. She had too many children who then had too many grandchildren to have time to worry about a man coming home. How could my cold feet and I be still there to cuddle? After divorcing my grandfather several decades ago, she was no longer interested in dating. She always told me to meet before I found a man who would do it for me.

 

4. She taught me her version of “girly” things

Although I had three older sisters, there were still things that I could not understand as a girl. For example, why I had to wash my hair and my brother did not do it and why it was important that my legs be hairy. I still have a scar in my leg when I tried to shave my legs with my big razor, then I took blood in the hall to find a bandage. Damn, she was not happy, but she finally explained that my hair was so light that I could not even see it, but if you could, she showed me how to do it.

 

5. She was the loudest fan at every sports game

Living in the same house allowed her to participate more easily in everyday tasks such as sports games and recitals. Small league football, college basketball, recreational volleyball, that was not important to my grandmother. When I played, she applauded.

The grandmother was not just a normal jubilant with the crowd, but hit her own drum and shouted loudly and loud whenever she thought it was good. It happened to the point where I begged her not to encourage my games, but I always smiled when I heard her call my name.

6. She would try and help with homework

Algebra was not her strength, she had changed several times since she was an academic, but she was still trying! She told me that the history books were wrong and what “had really happened”, and she just told me that I just had to succeed in science.

 

My grandmother was a spelling corrector because I was awful and I would probably die without spell checking. We had to stay together for hours and review the memory cards before a spelling test, just to make sure I had succeeded 75% of the time. She was there to see me grow through my struggles and witness the miracle of my success.

7. She forgives me for everything

Even if I do not deserve it, their forgiveness is boundless. Did you spill ice on his new carpet? Breaking his porcelain pot with iTunes apple juice with his credit card in charge without asking? All are notable offenses but are always forgiven by the grandmother. She’s been there since you wear diapers, she knows your mistakes will not make you who you are.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Nobody knows the real me.

Nobody knows the real me. Nobody knows how many times I’ve sat in my room and cried, how many times I’ve lost hope, how many times I’ve been let down. Nobody knows how many times I’ve had to hold back to tears, how many times I’ve felt like I’m about to snap but don’t just for the sake of others. Nobody knows the thoughts that have gone through my head whenever I’m sad, and how horrible they really are.

Sometimes You Are Going To Feel Lost, Alone, And Directionless

Sometimes you will have to rewrite texts and e-mails thirty times before erasing everything and decide to stay in a bubble. Sometimes you feel overwhelmed by loneliness and search for comfort on the Internet. At other times, you will reach everyone who listens. Collect text or dozens of tastes on a selfie in seconds, and get excited for a split second before they feel misery again.

Sometimes you feel overwhelming emotion. You will cry until your contacts come off. You will look in the mirror as tears run down your face, and the reflection will make your stomach firmer. At other times, you will feel numb. Your mind becomes void. You do not care about anything, let alone yourself.

Sometimes you skip your showers and let your nail polish and roots grow because the idea of taking care of you does not even come to your mind. At other times, the little things you have taken for granted, the things that really pleased you, like sending your best friends and eating a full meal, will become invincible missions.

Sometimes you can press the alarm one, two or three times before turning it off completely so you can sleep until noon. At other times, you will fix the ceiling because the ghosts of your past are glittering around you, mocking your memories and preventing you from resting.

Sometimes you will have dark thoughts. They will sabotage themselves. They will repel the people who matter most to you. At other times, you call friends (or relatives) at two in the morning. You will catch the shoulders. They will drain all your feelings. You do not want to let go of people who take care of you. They do not want to part for a second.

Sometimes you wonder about your goal. You will feel lost, alone and without direction. And these feelings will be so insistent, a distraction from all that was important to you will make you wonder if you will feel so forever. You will wonder if you will ever come out of the rut that caused a life of disappointment.

But even if your hope is gone, you must continue to chug. You must believe in yourself because the phrase you heard millions of times is true. It’s better. They will see the sunlight again. You will feel relieved. You will have renewed confidence. You will recognize your own value.

One day, you’ll be grateful to have lasted so long, because all the BS you’ve been through lately can improve tomorrow.

Don’t be afraid of losing people.

Don’t be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself trying to please everyone around you.

6 Simple Ways To Love Yourself Again

“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind, and the third is to be kind.” Henry James

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Maria Robinson

Being kind to yourself in everyday life is in my experience one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Life will become lighter and your relationships will most likely improve.

You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up.

Below are 6 ways to learn to love yourself more.

1. Focus on the things you like about yourself

We tend to focus on things we do not like about ourselves: our mistakes, insecurities, flaws or fears. However, the more you focus on what you do not like about yourself, the more these thoughts become beliefs and begin to shape your reality.

Everything you perceive in the physical world has its origin in the invisible inner world of your thoughts, beliefs, and stories. When you focus on yourself in a positive and compassionate way, you open yourself to see and recognize how amazing you already are.

Now take a few minutes to think about the positive aspects of yourself and write down three things in your journal or on a sticky note.

2. Take more time to do the things you want to do

If your friends call you up on your day off and they want to go to the movies, you really do not have to say Yes. If you wanted to stay inside and read your favorite book for the 233rd time, do that! Just because the people around you do one thing, it doesn’t mean you have to do it too.

Next time you’re invited out or you find yourself doing something with friends or family out of obligation, ask yourself if it’s something that you really have to do. If it isn’t, is it something you genuinely want to do? If not, politely decline, and just do you.

3. Let go of mistakes and embrace the past

Imagine, you go through life with a heavy backpack filled with stones. Often, our past mistakes and struggles can weigh us down so that we can not live in the present moment and make the changes necessary to create an authentic life.

The truth is, we all have a past and we all made mistakes, some big, some small. But if you stick to what happened yesterday, you miss the beauty of the present moment. Remember that everything happened to you has shaped you into the unique person you are today, but doesn’t define your future.

When you embrace the past you create space for all the beautiful things the world has to offer and you open your heart to healing, love, and happiness.

4. Get rid of the negative influences in your life

To loving yourself, get rid of people who do not love you.

Love is an action, a choice – not a feeling. Therefore, anybody who claims they love you but doesn’t make time for you, or doesn’t make you feel special and treats you like you did not matter. They do not love you and they are a parasite. They eat your confidence in you and your happiness. Get rid of them.

They are not good, not important and especially not precious for your precious heart and your time. They are beautiful, unique and amazing – do not waste your time with people who do not wonder why you are not famous for being awesome, duh!

5. Appreciate your life

We have a tendency to focus on the things we want to change about ourselves, our relationships and our lives. But what if you stopped focusing on the things you want to change and, instead, focused on the things you are grateful for right now. Rhonda Byrne, the producer, and author of The Magic encourages us to count our blessings and be grateful for what we have. Byrne writes:

“When you’re grateful for the things you have, no matter how small they may be, you will see those things instantly increase.”

By training your mind to appreciate yourself and accept all the things you are grateful for in your life, you will immediately begin to love yourself more. What are the things you are grateful for in your life now? Write down the first 5 things that come to your mind.

6. Take care of your body

When we do not feel well, we usually neglect our body for nutrition, rest and love. But when you do not know the needs of your body, you are giving yourself the message that you are not worth being loved. On the other hand, when you pay attention to your body and its needs, start to feel loved and lovable. Your body is extremely intelligent and knows what it needs. Your challenge is to listen to what your body tells you.

Self-love is something we can choose, as well as sadness, hate or anger. When you choose to embrace yourself, despite your flaws, quirks, and humanness, you also open the door to let others love you too.

Sources: recoverywarriors.com, thoughtcatalog.com

Kids Don’t Tell You They Have Anxiety, They Say ‘My Stomach Hurts’

Many of you may be familiar with this statement: “Mom, my stomach hurts.” It’s a similar statement that my daughter tells me at the same time almost every night. She feels good all day, but when it’s bedtime and when I turn off the light, her stomach hurts.

As night falls, anxiety increases in many children. It’s dark, they are alone, there are no distractions. Working together to conquer her anxiety, she knows I will remind her that her stomach is actually just fine and it’s just her worry.

On the other hand, my son used to tell me his stomach hurt before school every morning. He was fighting with separation anxiety and did not want to be away from me.

Instead of explaining it to me, all he said his stomach hurt.

Why do kids say their stomach hurts?

Why do children say that their stomach hurts? The real reason is that their stomachs do actually hurt.

The stomach is home to the enteric nervous system and is often called your second brain. Big nerves and anxiousness create a real sensation in the belly area.
This leads to a cycle because as the anxiety creates a stomach ache, a stomach ache causes even more anxiety and it continues on.

One study found that more than half of people surveyed (51%) who experienced stomach pains as children ended up with some type of anxiety disorder sometime in their lives.

The most important thing in children is they often complain of stomach aches. They are not doing to attract attention. What happens is their body manifests their anxiety right in the pit of their stomach.

There are many different approaches to conquering kids anxiety.

Take a look at the video below for more tips on this topic.